I can’t be sure yet, but God keeps leading me in the same direction it seems. The youtube comments from people that I list below, are just some of the daily things that make my passion for adoption and birth mother awareness seem all the more important. This Post is about a video I posted on youtube of an episode of the view, when they discuss Sarah Palin’s daughter.
So last month I posted a video on youtube of a recent episode clipping from the View. I don’t visit my youtube site much, but kept getting emails about comments being posted. Finally I got the time to go look at the video again and it has 50 comments and 26,988 views! That may not be a lot for some pro-tubers…but for me that’s a popular video. Or rather the topic of adoption and abortion is. I always post or say something about my feelings on adoption, just to get a picture of the responses and misconceptions people have. However, it is sometimes overwhelming. I have a lot to do in the next ten years… I’ve set a goal and date (possibly unrealistic goal, but no harm in trying) to change the face of adoption in the next ten years. To change it so much that when my daughter is around the age of ten…she can go and randomly ask someone what they know about adoption and what they think about birth mom’s, and instead of getting a response like, “birth mothers abandon their children ad adoptees are unwanted people….she may get something more along the lines of, ” I haven’t directly experienced adoption, but I have heard wonderful things about how it is done now….You are very lucky girl, your birth mom must of loved you more than anything!!!” And that’s my dream. Abortions would decrease dramatically in that time too, and people would finally start to notice the correlation between the two.
I just noticed on one of the links I listed below…(the ones that link to my video) One is from a hillary clinton support site and actually is used in a response that wasn’t necessarily against Sarah Plain or Hillary, but gets exposure for the agenda and purpose of the video! So yea! That’s the site below, I made the banner as small as possible (haha)
So my feelings about this greater awareness of adoption having an affect on the decisions of young pregnant girls..is not a far-fetched idea (as some pro-choice commentors have said) First of all, I was a young pregnant woman without any husband and barely enough money to support myself. I was raped, yada yada, (just mention it for the few that haven’t read blog before and will respond about my “un-christian like ways” by having a child out of wedlock..I remind they everytime, even if I wasn’t raped, God doesn’t keep a score sheet of your past!) Anyways, from being in that situation, I know the thoughts that immediately rush through your head, when you first hear you’re pregnant. I knew some about adoption, but it would of been a comfort to know then what I know now. Second of all, I am not in bad company either in this view. I recently flipped through a book with saying’s of Mother Teresa, and you don’t have to believe some silly girl’s opinion, just take it from her..
Mother Teresa found more poverty in the United States than one could imagine: abortion. “It is a poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you wish,” the saint said among one of her visits to our beloved country. “Any country that accepts abortion, is not teaching its people to love, but to use any violence to get what it wants.”
When facing the difficulties of an unwanted pregnancy, many women underestimate the power of adoption. Abortion is not the answer. Mother Teresa never turned a child away no matter how crowded her shelters were. “Please don’t kill the child”, Mother Teresa would plead when facing the issue of abortion, ” I want the child. Please give me the child. I am willing to accept any child who would be aborted, and to give that child to a married couple who will love the child, and be loved by the child. From our children’s home in Calcutta alone, we have saved over 3,000 children from abortions. These children have brought such love and joy to their adopting parents, and have grown up so full of love and joy!
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Added: September 04, 2008
I hardly ever watch ABC’s the View, but today I happened to turn the TV on and catch just a bit of it. The bit that left me quite a bit frustrated too. If they had a way to call into the show during discussions and say your two cents, I would have. I know they don’t because I tried! I did send an email though to Bill Geddie, the host (like that will ever reach him..) I was just so frustrated with the conversation, I had to go online and register an account with the view just so I could say my piece (whether it’s heard or not, at least I said it)
So one of the day’s “hot topics” was discussing Sara Palin’s daughter and how she is giving birth at 17 and getting married to her boyfriend so young too. They proceeded to talk about how it was in a way ruining two young lives who aren’t prepared yet to have a child…(the boy even blogged about how he didn’t want kids ever) All four of their responses to this issue, and of teen pregnancy in general, totally ignored adoption as an option! I mean they discussed this for a while and each time, referred to the only other option in these cases as abortion! Even Elizabeth (who I love) didn’t think to mention it. I can’t imagine the amount of women at home today who just took a pregnancy test and are now scared to death, that who could of been affected by just one person on the show even mentioning the option of adoption!
I wonder how many lives they could of saved with just a few spoken words! They have that amazing opportunity to reach millions everyday, and they weren’t even aware of the options adoption offers to a child. I don’t blame them, but actually the adoption community for not reaching out more to the media and discussing it more in society at large. It is nothing to be ashamed of, yet so many still feel it would somehow shake up a family or a person to just discuss it in public. I think the adopted kids have/would have no problem with it being discussed in front of them, in fact they may think they were more cool just because of that! If people talked about how amazing and loving the act of adoption was all the time, how could it not cross every-one’s mind as an option to abortion, or raising the child yourself. Whoopi still thinks her daughter, at 15, only had two options with her unplanned pregnancy, and because of this I think that’s why she pushed for an abortion over life. It makes me wonder if a lot of pro-choices would change their mid if they were more educated on the availability of adoption.
I know I am biased…but my hope is one day most women’s thought process, if an unplanned pregnancy should occur, would go something like this: pregnancy test, then fear, then can I raise it, should I have an abortion, and then hopefully they don’t stop their but go to the third option (or second in some cases) to give life and complete another family out their somewhere through the miracle of adoption! That would be awesome!!!
To the view..in their comment box for Bill Geddie (I wrote in a hurry, and had limit to words):
I am very frustrated with today’s episode. They discussed having a baby and raising it as the only option to life at least a dozen times, never once thinking about adoption as an option! I believe the number of abortions would greatly decrease if adoption was given as much mention (or even half) that of abortion. Credit is deserves too! In my opinion, it is a mature decision to provide a loving family with a new life than it is to abort or raise a baby when not prepared FULLY to give all they deserve. Barbara automatically assumed if they 17 year old didn’t have raise the baby, the only option was to abort and so did the others. Thank you. I hope someone reads this.
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yeah…bring a child into the world and ship them off so you have to go on Locaters later in life…make urself feel better and make the child feel shitty and unwanted…thats brilliant…
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This is such an ignorant statement, & the reason for my life. My daughter will NEVER feel unwanted! She will know about me all her life & that I picked a wonderful life 4her. I would of LOVED to keep her but I am single & can barely provide for myself. I wanted better for her!What good mom doesn’t?I was raped, but that makes no difference in the situation! I get updates from parents often,so no “locaters” As far as “making myself feel better” its like waking up everyday with half of you missing!More Anti-Adoption Comments from my blogs…
norwegian68 (3 weeks ago)
+1 Poor comment Good commentAdoption is not that simple. I am adopted. I almost wasn’t because my parents originally wanted a boy to adopt.There are thousands of children that can be adopted now but people do not want them because they are too old, or not the right color or have special needs. So don’t just throw adoption out as a cure all. It is not!!!me:
I a am a birth mother of a beautiful little girl and I just wanted to say to you that what you said means a lot to me. I hope my daughter knows that she was wanted by so many people. I would of loved to keep her, but financially I couldn’t and I wanted her to have a mom and dad. When you say that you almost weren’t adopted…I don;t quite understand.bbsmu (3 weeks ago) Show Hide
I know the older children have it much harder and I just hope more people out there start to adopt older children too.
I dont think adoption is a cure all, only God is the ‘cure all”, in my opinion. But it is the only option I see besides raising a child or aborting one.My decision to save a life was the best decision I ever made and my daughter is my greatest achievement.
I wish more adoptees were happy with adoption in general and I am upset that most seem not to be. I would love to here more from you as to why you aren’t gung ho all for adoption. I think I would certaintly be if I was adopted myself, since I know the other end of it and how much love adoptive parents have for their child.Mother Teresa says it best,
“I will tell you something beautiful. We are fighting abortion by adoption – by care of the mother and adoption for her baby. We have saved thousands of lives. We have sent word to the clinics, to the hospitals and police stations: “Please don’t destroy the child; we will take the child.” So we always have someone tell the mothers in trouble: “Come, we will take care of you, we will get a home for your child.” And we have a tremendous demand from couples who cannot have a child – but I never give a child to a couple who have done something not to have a child. Jesus said, “Anyone who receives a child in my name, receives me.” By adopting a child, these couples receive Jesus but, by aborting a child, a couple refuses to receive Jesus.Please don’t kill the child. I want the child. Please give me the child. I am willing to accept any child who would be aborted and to give that child to a married couple who will love the child and be loved by the child. From our children’s home in Calcutta alone, we have saved over 3000 children from abortion. These children have brought such love and joy to their adopting parents and have grown up so full of love and joy.But I feel that the greatest destroyer of peace today is abortion, because it is a war against the child, a direct killing of the innocent child, murder by the mother herself. And if we accept that a mother can kill even her own child, how can we tell other people not to kill one another? How do we persuade a woman not to have an abortion? As always, we must persuade her with love and we remind ourselves that love means to be willing to give until it hurts. Jesus gave even His life to love us. So, the mother who is thinking of abortion, should be helped to love, that is, to give until it hurts her plans, or her free time, to respect the life of her
child. The father of that child, whoever he is, must also give until it hurts.I want to add to this that not all women (in fact not the majority) become birth mothers of adoption because they had no other option and didn’t want the baby. In my experience, as a birth mother and talking ot birth mothers, we would of loved to keep our child more than anything…but a child is not anyone’s possesion, and because we loved them more than life itself, we wanted to provife them with everything they deserved that we couldn’t offer them. That is the perception of birth mother’s that I’d like to be most common in ten years…when my daughter is old enough to ask the world for their opinions.
Edna Gladney Center helped bring my daughter together with the parents God intended for her to have, always. And even in rape situations, the child is innocent and all the more glorious in the eye’s of God.If we want a love message to be heard, it has got to be sent out. To keep a lamp burning, we have to keep putting oil in it.
Mother Teresa
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I am a birth mother too and I was lucky that my daughter’s aparents gave her positive support. I also have a video on YouTube called Child I Cannot Claim that shows how a mother feels about giving up her child. It supports open adoption and opening sealed records. You can view it at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=stAspMlwht8&eurl . I wrote the song and a daughter I raised is singing it.
Teri